29/03/07 WE'VE ONLY GONE AND BLOWN THE BLOODY DOORS OFF......

WE'VE ONLY GONE AND BLOWN THE BLOODY DOORS OFF!

A tale of two people destined to find each other.

A meeting of hearts and minds.

(Aaw, ain't it sweet!)

On the Friday 19th of May 2006 myself and my beautiful boy toy jumped the besom, in pretty much the traditional way (Tunbridge Wells Registry Office) then on to a local pub, where we toasted with Sambuca, he sang "Sweet Child o’ Mine" to me and we partied HARD until (about) 8am...It was the happiest day of my life (Awwww!)We met here, well, not here, but online at okcupid (it’s a little more cerebral than many of the fuck-fest free-for-alls elsewhere), at about 11.30am on the Thursday 1st September 2005, where he sent me an amazing message, not the usual ’tits oot for the lads’ kind of message, but an intelligent, honest and funny initial contact. We chatted for a while through the IM...(He stayed on at work until about 10pm as he had no internet access at home) Then he called my house, where I was sat upon the back of my sofa with my children screeching about the imminent attack of the mouse that had invaded our sitting room (I swear it was as big as a lion!) We had a brief chat and after he said goodbye, I thought I’ve blown it, he thinks I’m nuts!The next day I signed into Cupid in the hope that he would be here, he wasn’t :( He came on later (Yes, I had left my ’puter on all day in the hope he would come across and say hi!! Sad huh?) Anyhoo, when he finally came on he had taken the day off work, and went and joined the local library, just so’s he could talk to little ole me...we talked for a little while, when he said he needed to go shopping..




Later that day he came back on only to reveal he had been out and bought a laptop and a webcam and that -when he had figured out how to hook up the webcam- he would be on MSN to have a chat.I waited and waited, absolutely desperate to see him in the flesh...so to speak.....He couldn’t figure it out....so, we spent the evening just chatting through MSNOn the Saturday, I spent the morning building my children a camp in the garden, with a shed load of ’messy play’ thrown in, desperate to get online to chat with him, but felt a little ’adequate parenting’ wouldn’t go miss, then I could chat with him for a little while during the day without feeling like I was neglecting my cubs....When I finally got online, as soon as I had signed into MSN, he came across and told me his webcam was hooked up and ready to rock and roll...eek!!I had not put on my camera as we had spoke previously, seems silly now, but I wanted the ’reveal’ to be simultaneous........!!!!Well, what can I say? He was beautiful, is beautiful, and I was not disappointed.......We chatted on and off all day long, after the children went to bed at about 9pm we continued chatting, by 10.30, we had pretty much exhausted everything we wanted to know about each other...the next thing to arrange was ’The Meet’......He was on my doorstep by about midnight.At the time he was living in Berkshire, about 100 miles from my (now our) home.All I can say is I truly fell in love that night.We talked and talked all night, and when the children awoke I introduced them all ( I have 3) something I have never done before! He stayed a while, then left....sadly.He came back the next day after work (Commuting from slough to Tunbridge Wells!!)....the rest is history!To anyone that has taken the time to read this through, I want you to know I am not some silly kid, I’m 37, I have three children and a good life, both family and social...I am not some saddo geek that has spent my waking hours trawling the internet for possible new daddys for my children...they have me, they certainly don’t actually need a father. I am a (reasonably) intelligent female, I have made some good friends, met more freaks and weirdos than I could possibly count online, and to be honest, I myself, have somewhat ridiculed internet ’dating’...but I met my ’one’. That said, my-now- Husband was not some mutant, freakishly deformed...physically nor mentally!! Nor desperate..he’d just ended a relationship with some pretty young thing...too young and of a completely different level, thus non-compatible, and was just looking to meet new people with the same sort of interests and outlooks on life(You’ve read my profile...you work it out!!)When I first read his message, I felt a connection.When we started chatting through the IM on Cupid, I thought, I could love this man.When I first saw him on webcam I felt...this could really happen.I made a promise to myself that I would be nothing but honest with ’this one’, not that I am one prone to bullshit, but within a day or two of meeting him, he knew that if my ’one’ came along I wouldn’t waste anytime in making a future with him, he knew that my children are my life, and that anyone else that joins us on this journey would have to be pretty special, that I couldn’t have anymore children, so if he got involved with me he would have to forfeit one of his life-long dreams of fathering his own children, although ’our’ children are the happiest they’ve ever been and he certainly does a better job than their (estranged-by his own choice!) father. I told him things that even my closest friends have no idea of, and he, in turn was as honest.And I am glad...We chose the 19th May specifically...we met on the 1st of the 9th and it was during our fifth month of ’courting’ we decided we would get married (19/5...get it?) Also, luckily, it fell on a Friday, Venus’ Day.......we married at 13:00 (13 is his lucky Number) On the day we went to book our wedding, we both had a tattoo on the back of our left wrists- Me-"13" He-"301", and no, I didn’t have the number 13 tattooed as it is his lucky number!! It’s our secret! And we had our nipples pierced as an alternative engagement ring.I wanted to let you all know about us, and that, to those of you looking for your ’one’, he/she is out there...just be honest, if it’s too full-on for them, then they obviously aren’t for you...but you never know, they may be out there somewhere!

And to anyone who has had the same sort of experience, I’d love to hear from you :)